Let’s make the holidays OK

(Originally published 1 December 2020) 

I am *really* embracing the concept and goal of doing OK, as opposed to trying (and failing) to do “my best” (because with my brain, I can always imagine a way to improve or do better). Recently I had wanted to go for a walk, but saw it was getting later than I had wanted to start, with the prettiest light fading. But I reminded myself it could be an OK walk—it didn’t have to be a great one. And it turned out so much better than I had hoped for: I got to watch a full moon rising and see some lovely early Christmas lights—delightful sights that filled my heart.

That encouraged me to reach out to my sister to sound out the notion of settling for “OK holidays.” We often spend Christmas or New Year’s together, and have certain traditions we enjoy, but can be stressful to try and make happen. With this year in particular it’s hard to say what will be happening in the next weeks. Per the governor’s request and example, we spent Thanksgiving in our separate households, and though I would have enjoyed the company, I spent a very relaxed holiday on my own.

I think it’s especially important for people to let go of expectations of how the holidays should look and be this year. I’m not saying we shouldn’t celebrate, but maybe we can simplify, by enjoying a few activities or traditions that hold the most meaning—or are the easiest to do. Many of us have less energy, support, and/or resources this year, so it makes sense not to compete with or compare to past years. And if “OK” doesn’t feel good to you, remind yourself that “Good enough is good enough.”

Wishing everyone a safe, healthy, and happy holiday season! Blessed Be, Amanda